Sometime ago, I posted a Lecture about the need for a married woman to find a name for her husband, a name she loves and is comfortable with, and that means something to her, and why she can sometimes call her husband “Daddy”.

But you need to understand that first, it’s not about the name you call your husband, but the concept behind that name. The name you choose for your husband must be based on how you view him and who you know he means and represents to you.

You must think of your husband based on the sweet and good you call him, and you don’t need to change that thought when he offends you or when you’re not in good terms with each other. In fact, that’s when you should think well of him more so negative thoughts about him would not begin having free flow in your mind.

If your thinking about your husband reveals the thoughts of pride and false self-importance towards him, or that he’s not much important, it doesn’t make a Happy Marriage anywhere and the sweet and good name you call him does not matter. Doing that means you’re writing an invitation letter to marital disaster.

You must think of and act towards your husband based on the sweet and good name you call him; the name must reflect in your attitude towards him. If not, the name would mean nothing and wouldn’t favour you, favour him or favour your marriage. That’s one of the reasons why some marriages fail.

Secondly, whether you accept it or not, the truth remains the same: your husband became your father the very day you got married to him. You don’t have to call him daddy before he becomes one to you, he’s a father to you in your marriage whether you know it or not.

The proof is there:

1. That was why you changed from your father’s name to his own name on your wedding day.
2. That was why you relocated from your father’s house to his own house after your wedding.
3. That was why your father’s power and authority over you was transferred from your father to your husband on your wedding day.
4. That was what your father openly demonstrated when he willingly handed you over to the priest that handed you over to your husband during your church or religious wedding, in God’s presence.
5. It was also most powerfully demonstrated at your traditional wedding when you were handed over to him in the presence of the entire family.
6. That was why you expect him to be the first provider for your family while you support him.
7. That is why you are expected to submit to him and always obey him the same way you submitted to and always obeyed your father while you were still under his care.

So, you can call your husband any name you like, including “Baby,” Sweetheart, Honey. All is good.

But what you must have is the concept of HONOUR AND RESPECT accorded to a father. Because, practically, HE IS YOUR FATHER and HE IS YOUR KING.

My Queen calls me all kinds of names, including “My Son.” She has earned the right to do that because of how she Honours and Respects me. Well, that doesn’t mean she’s perfect nor does it mean that I am. We are both getting better daily. But we respect and honour EACH OTHER always, even when quarrelling with each other.

The biggest thing your husband both needs and wants from you is that YOU HONOUR AND RESPECT HIM. That includes when and whether he’s up or down personally or financially, or when you have a quarrel with him, and whether you earn bigger incomes than he does in a million times or not.

As a man, you must love your wife so much that you are always willing, ready and sometimes displease yourself to please her. If a girl was entrusted to you by her father to play the role of a father to her and in her life, then play that role of a father.

Don’t make her sad just to be happy. Love her enough to sacrifice for her and continue to do so as a father to her. Forgive her wrongs and forget the wrongs. Stop taking what she did against her, please let it go. Make your wife happy, always, from now. Be a good, better and the best husband from today.

Woman, I’ve told you before, I tell you again, ALWAYS HONOUR AND RESPECT YOUR HUSBAND.

If you’re still #single, marry a man who will play the role of a husband and father to you at the same time, don’t blindly marry a monster or someone who wouldn’t forgive you when you do wrong.

And, as a guy, marry a girl that will always honour and respect you, and be ready to love her so much that you can do anything to make her happy.

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I am A. T. ADENEKAN

Founder, The King’s People Connection & Happy Marriage Training Programme