Do you know that you can actually predict your marriage and know how your marriage would look like long before you get married? It is both possible and necessary. I call it Marital Prediction for the Wise Singles.
Therefore, marital prediction helps you to prepare and adjust yourself towards getting the kind of marriage you desire.
I believe you will agree with me that there is hardly anyone in this world who wants a bad marriage in life. Everyone wants a good and happy marriage. But, why do so many people have bad and regretted marriages instead of the happy marriages they desire?
The reason is same as why many people are poor and wretched despite the fact that everyone desires to be rich and happy. Wishes alone don’t translate into achievements. The fact that you desire something in your heart does not mean you will automatically acquire it.
If you want to be rich, you must think and work. Similarly, if you want to have a happy and successful marriage as a person, you must think and work. And that thinking begins with you looking at your current behaviours towards the people within your family circle and your character towards the people around you.
Don’t deceive yourself, the way you behave towards your brothers and sister as single is exactly the same way you will behave towards your husband or wife when you get married.
Many people don’t know this, they keep deceiving themselves by thinking of marriage as an escape route from their parents and siblings. Not knowing that what they are running from is what they are preparing to run into.
Let me tell you this, if you don’t enjoy a happy family as a single, it is likely you wouldn’t enjoy a happy marriage as a married. The reason is this, your siblings from whom you’re running are humans, not spirits or angels. The husband or wife to whom you’re running to and his or her family are also humans, not spirits or angels.
So, whatever behaviours that you have that is making your people to dislike you or anything in you that makes you have problems with people would manifest in your marriage, and the same strives and fights would reoccur in the marriage. The only solution to this is this: CHANGE YOUR CHARACTER.
That is the work you must do in order to have a happy and successful marriage that you desire. You must improve on your behaviours if you’re planning to have a happy and successful marriage as a person. Don’t think your spouse would automatically adjust for you.
That’s why you see many people fighting each other in marriage, separating and divorcing over trivial issues, and some killing or destroying one another. That’s why you see many people not enjoying their marriage. It didn’t start today. It is as a result of what they have been doing for long, which they didn’t check or change from while growing up, that has now become a part of them and this is what they take into marriage.
If you’re always getting angry with your parents, siblings, neighbours, friends and other people as a single, you’ll likely be getting angry with your spouse and his or her family members and other persons that surround your marriage when you get married. Marriage is not a cure for bad behaviours. It rather exposes them. What is the solution? CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOURS. Work on yourself.
If you hate your family, irrespective of who they are or what they do, you’re likely going to start having hatreds towards your spouse at some points. Reason is this, nobody is perfect.
Whatever your family members do that makes you to hate them instead of forgiving them, your spouse would one day do. And, since you couldn’t forgive your family members with whom you grew up, how would you forgive your spouse? FORGIVING YOUR FAMILY EVERYTHING THEY DID THAT HURT YOU, no matter what it might be, is the solution to that.
If you’re always talking carelessly. If no one could rebuke you. If you don’t usually take to corrections. If you like keeping malice. If you like abusing people. If you’re always being negatively stubborn. If you’re always lazy. If you’re usually quarrelsome. Whatever bad or negative character or behaviours you have as a single, you will surely manifest them in your marriage and that would bring you the same results you usually get from people before marriage, in a multiplied way.
So, if you want to know how your marriage would look like, check your current character and behaviours and the results you usually get from people when you demonstrate those characters.
That is your feedback and it is those feedbacks you need to use to predict how your marital life would look like. If you don’t like what you get, then CHANGE SOMETHING WITHIN YOU.
If not, you might end up having a bad marriage. But, if you do, and continue improving yourself and getting better at your character, you will surely have a peaceful and blissful marriage.
Everything can be predicted in a way. You can know how your result would look like based on how well you study or don’t study as a student. You don’t expect to get straight A’s when you’ve not been attending lectures and reading your books.
Likewise, your current characters and behaviours, and what people say about what you do right now, could help you know how your marital life would look like even from now. It is called Marital Prediction Before Marriage. And, every wise single should make that prediction.
So, I ask you now…
HOW WILL YOUR MARRIAGE LOOK LIKE WHEN YOU GET MARRIED?
Check up on your current characters and behaviours and give the answer. Then, do what you need to do in order to have the kind of marriage that you truly desire in life.
You Must Think Well and Do the Right Thing Now, in order to Live Well and Have a Happy and Successful Marriage. So, ACT NOW.
Talk to me at +2347030371153, let’s help you prepare yourself for a Happy Marriage.
I am A. T. ADENEKAN
Founder, The King’s People Connection & Happy Marriage Training Programme