I want you to know today that irrespective of what you’ve heard, read, been taught, or have come to believe, peace of mind is never enough to determine the choice of a life partner.
Many people have made that mistake in the past, please don’t join them to make it if you’re still single today. I’ll tell you the story of one of our members in HMTP to confirm this.
Peace of mind is one of the ways by which you can determine the choice of a life partner, but it is the least thing you must consider, according to My Queen, its consideration is just 5%.
Please note and understand it well, over and over again, that peace of mind alone is not a measure to determine whom to marry. Okay?
Ask those who are having big problems in their marriages today and those divorcing if they married each other without having peace of mind before the marriage.
Many people have used “peace of mind” to enter into a wrong marriage that God didn’t send them into, now they are weeping and regretting that they ever married in the first place. They wish to become single again.
So many of you that entered a relationship based on peace of mind, you understand how confused you are and how doubtful you became when you start seeing challenges in that relationship.
Many people are too lazy to pray and hear from God. If they pray and fast for a while and they don’t receive, they give up and conclude on peace of mind. But you don’t do such when searching for a job, do you?
We have led certain persons from our Platforms to pray and hear from God who eventually received that the person they thought they had peace of mind about isn’t the right person for them?
Had they married such people before or without consulting us or without submitting themselves to our leadership and obeying our instructions, they would have gotten married to a wrong person, only to start weeping later in their marriage.
Every marriage has its own challenges, no matter how sweet it is. Irrespective of how gloriously you see a couple you admire, never think they don’t have their own challenges within their marriage. Even your greatly admired Pastors do.
What helps you in the time of challenges is the fact that you heard from God and you were certain this person you marry is the right person for you. If not, many other things would happen.
One of the reasons why it is very easy for people to divorce these days is that most people and so many Christians that are getting married are doing so either without hearing from God by themselves, without confirming what they heard, or because they only received what a Prophet or Pastor told them.
Your parents can consult people on your behalf, but you must hear God for and by yourself. That is why you are a child of God in the first place. You must be led by the Spirit of God and be able receive from Him.
Peace of mind over certain matters is one of the ways God speaks to us as Christians. But, My Dear, when it comes marriage, a lifetime contract, something that determines how the rest of your life would look like, peace of mind is never enough to make your final decision.
It should rather make you to know whom to pray about and whom not to even bother troubling yourself to consult God over.
Peace of mind about him or her should drive you into intense prayers to hear from God in a more direct and specific way to know His mind concerning this person regarding marriage.
If you don’t, when challenges arise in your relationship, that peace of mind will turn to confusion of mind. And if in marriage, it will become problem of life for you. Because you were never sure before you married.
Tell me, how wouldn’t you have peace of mind about someone you like? Better forget about peace of mind and get yourself into a period of strong and serious prayers, fasting and the studying of the Bible to know and hear what God has to say about the person.
No matter what happens, please as a single individual, Never Choose a Life Partner Based on Peace of Mind Alone please, it is very risky.
Pray until you receive a concrete revelation from God. Don’t be a lazy Christian. Let God show you a vision or give you a special voice.
Don’t despise dreams from God. It is the primary way of God’s vision to people on earth, both Christians and non-Christians.
70 percent of the revelations or visions of the Bible are dreams, both in the Old and New Testament, check it out, aside the book of Revelation.
But you must be certain the dream is from God and it must be confirmed and reconfirmed, with more dreams and the other ways of God speaking to us. That is why you have your Pastor and other spiritual leaders.
Never despise the place of your Pastor and people important to your spiritual life when it comes to confirming what God reveals to you, especially in the area of marriage. Don’t think you know it all.
If your Pastor and spiritual leaders aren’t important, God wouldn’t have given you them. But you make sure they are leading you according to the Bible standard.
Especially as a lady, don’t enter a relationship without first hearing from God about it. If you have already done so, don’t continue that relationship without hearing from God now.
Never get married to a guy that God did not specifically show you that he’s meant for you in life for marriage.
Because when issues happen in relationship or marriage, it is the female that suffers more. I know how many cases we are handling currently.
That is why you need to attend our special training and Lectures, especially if you are on our platform. There are things we can’t write about but which can only be shared at physical training or during special seminars and private or paid Lectures.
Learn! Learn! Learn! God can speak to you. Even if it will take you 70 Days of Prayers and Fasting for you to hear God clearly, do it until you truly hear Him.
Don’t join them to believe that it is not everybody that will or can hear God. It Is a Big Lie!
God Can Speak to You…If He Created You, Then He Can Speak to You.
Pray until you hear God by yourself and for yourself.
And, when you hear, you must confirm it at least 3 to 4 times before you finally decide.
Aunty, Buroda, peace of mind is one of the ways God can speak to you, but it is not a measure to finally determine whom to marry. Okay?
A lady consulted me in 2018. She had seen one Lecture I posted on a Facebook group, relating to hearing from God before choosing a life partner, and contacted me based on that.
She told me she had two guys wanting to marry her. She narrated that she had prayed about the two of them but she has peace of mind concerning one. In her message, she revealed that she had made up her mind to follow my counsel as her final decision, after having heard from God through some prophets.
I later learnt that she sent exactly the same message to the woman who is the founder of the Facebook group, there are over one hundred thousand members on that group.
She told me that the woman advised her to choose the person she has the peace of mind about, and also recommended a Joyce Meyer’s book to her.
Do you want to know what I told her?
I informed her that I was not going to tell her which one to choose but I would lead her to pray and hear from God by herself.
She had been praying and fasting but she had never specifically heard about which of them to choose, except for the “peace of mind from God” about one of the two and what she heard through the 3 prophets of God she had consulted, together with the one her mum consulted on her behalf.
But she was not satisfied and was still confused.
Since I’m not a prophet, I can’t hear from God for her. I’m just a teacher and a consultant. So I told her to give me three days of her time and promise to follow every instruction I give her within those three days, as long as they are Biblical.
So, we started the work.
I gave her Bible Passages to read and prayer points to pray with specific instructions to follow. She was such a serious and diligent young woman; she followed every instruction.
She didn’t receive anything on the first day. But on the second day, God gave her a special dream.
There are two kinds of dreams, one is Normal Dream and the other Special Dream. If you take our course HOW TO HEAR FROM GOD ON YOUR LIFE PURPOSE AND LIFE PARTNER you will understand these better, and the different ways God could speak to you, including how to know how God usually speaks to you.
In that dream, she saw herself standing and then she saw the guy towards whom she had the peace of mind, standing beside her with a little space between them; he was holding a blue shirt.
The guy held one sleeve of the shirt, and the other sleeve was erected. She saw herself holding the other sleeve of the shirt. But she discovered that the part of the sleeve she was holding was hard and heavy, even though it was just a piece of cloth.
The next thing she saw was the other guy towards whom she didn’t have peace of mind, standing where the former guy was standing and holding that same blue shirt, with the two sleeves erected.
The guy held the other side of the sleeve while the lady saw herself holding her own side of the sleeve. But now, she discovered that the part of the sleeve she was holding was soft and light like it would be the normal way.
She woke up.
I led her and we interpreted the dream together. So, what was the interpretation?
The blue shirt symbolised her marriage.
If she marries the first guy with whom she had peace of mind, the marriage would be hard and heavy on her.
But if she marries the other guy with whom she thought she didn’t have peace of mind, the marriage would be light and alright. That means she would enjoy the marriage.
When she told me about the two of them, believe me, I preferred her marrying the first guy with whom she had peace of mind.
But, you see, God’s ways and thoughts are different from ours. I led her into confirming and reconfirming what God had shown her.
We did it to the extent of asking God to show her if there was someone else beside the two of them and to show her the best person God has for her as a husband who would make her happy and fulfilled in life. She always saw the second guy.
So, she ended the relationship with the peace of mind guy and accepted for the other guy.
Eventually she joined our Platform and brought the two guys into our Platforms. Truly, I enjoy the first guy myself. But up till now I’ve not even known who the other one is. It’s been more than 7 months now.
She initially was having issues with the guy, and was always calling me every now and then. I also enjoyed talking with her because she is a good company as well as a useful, patient and obedient Daughter.
I explained some things to her.
She made sure she was part of every special online training we had for about 4 months. But after a while, she stopped calling.
When I called, I discovered that she stopped calling me because she has started enjoying her relationship with the guy she had so many complaints about. I still called her last week and she’s now Very Happy with the guy and in the relationship.
You can see how she could have married wrongly had she gone for the guy with whom she had peace of mind?
Having peace of mind concerning someone for or in a relationship is good, but it is never enough to decide on marrying that person.
The truth is this, many times, you have peace of mind towards someone because you like the person better or the person makes you happy or happier in the present.
But, for marriage, you don’t look at the present alone, you look at the future. And only God truly knows that future. That is why you must ask Him to show you. He can reveal it to you; and HE WILL if you ask Him to.
You Must Pray, Fast and Study the Bible Until You Hear from God and Rehear from God and Rehear Again from God and then Have your Pastor and other spiritual leaders biblically confirm what God has shown or told you.
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I am A. T. ADENEKAN
Founder, The King’s People Connection & Happy Marriage Training Programme
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